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ravencallscrowsInteresting day. ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
damashita had an appointment with her chiropractor, who's still one of our connections to Skagit County, so we went up there for that. darkmuffin got a haircut while we were in the valley- he picked the style himself. It's much shorter than it was- so much so that for the rest of the day i kept looking over when he was with other kids trying to figure out who the kid was wearing alexander's sweater. (Picture probably to follow tomorrow or shortly in his journal). Spent a bit of time with the in-laws also while we were up there.
Came back by way ofayeshadream's place- had dinner with her and her housemate and did some more of the now weekly adult chat. One of the things which came up in discussion was the Wet Spot.I know of a pretty sizable number of people who are members and/or regulars there, but have absolutely no desire to go there myself (For those of you who aren't Seattlites or not 'in the know,' the Wet Spot is the commonly used nickname for the Sex Positive Community Centre), and it got me thinking. I don't think i'm a prude, and certainly try not to be- i think any form of sexual expression between consenting adults is fine. They may not all appeal to me personally, but i don't think there's anything wrong with them. There are just some things i'd rather not see- i have this whole auto-wreck syndrome fear that there'd be something going on which was personally unappealing, but for some reason i'd just not be able to not watch.
Does that make me a prude? I don't know. I prefer to think of it as just choosing not to engage in non-consensual voyeurism, but is that really any different? One of the definitions of "prude" (and by far the most positive of the bunch) is "a person excessively concerned about propriety and decorum."
It's that word "excessively" which bothers me. How much is too much, or does it vary contingent upon the environment? I'd be interested in seeing what you think.
In other matters which came up in discussion,damashita and i mentioned that we used to host the Skagit Pagan Discussion Group- for anyone who's interested, it's through those gatherings that we met greenshadows, who still remains among our closest friends- and both Heather and her housemate seemed interested in the concept. Are there any others among the local readers who might be inclined to attend if we managed to schedule such a thing? I'd mentioned perhaps doing something similar on the SeaGoth boards back in the late spring, and there was some interest there, but things fell apart when it came to actually arriving at a day which'd work for people. Because there's a fair divergence between this audience and that one, would anyone have an interest?
damashita had an appointment with her chiropractor, who's still one of our connections to Skagit County, so we went up there for that. darkmuffin got a haircut while we were in the valley- he picked the style himself. It's much shorter than it was- so much so that for the rest of the day i kept looking over when he was with other kids trying to figure out who the kid was wearing alexander's sweater. (Picture probably to follow tomorrow or shortly in his journal). Spent a bit of time with the in-laws also while we were up there.Came back by way of
ayeshadream's place- had dinner with her and her housemate and did some more of the now weekly adult chat. One of the things which came up in discussion was the Wet Spot.I know of a pretty sizable number of people who are members and/or regulars there, but have absolutely no desire to go there myself (For those of you who aren't Seattlites or not 'in the know,' the Wet Spot is the commonly used nickname for the Sex Positive Community Centre), and it got me thinking. I don't think i'm a prude, and certainly try not to be- i think any form of sexual expression between consenting adults is fine. They may not all appeal to me personally, but i don't think there's anything wrong with them. There are just some things i'd rather not see- i have this whole auto-wreck syndrome fear that there'd be something going on which was personally unappealing, but for some reason i'd just not be able to not watch.Does that make me a prude? I don't know. I prefer to think of it as just choosing not to engage in non-consensual voyeurism, but is that really any different? One of the definitions of "prude" (and by far the most positive of the bunch) is "a person excessively concerned about propriety and decorum."
It's that word "excessively" which bothers me. How much is too much, or does it vary contingent upon the environment? I'd be interested in seeing what you think.
In other matters which came up in discussion,
damashita and i mentioned that we used to host the Skagit Pagan Discussion Group- for anyone who's interested, it's through those gatherings that we met greenshadows, who still remains among our closest friends- and both Heather and her housemate seemed interested in the concept. Are there any others among the local readers who might be inclined to attend if we managed to schedule such a thing? I'd mentioned perhaps doing something similar on the SeaGoth boards back in the late spring, and there was some interest there, but things fell apart when it came to actually arriving at a day which'd work for people. Because there's a fair divergence between this audience and that one, would anyone have an interest?
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Date: 2003-12-20 11:02 pm (UTC)*shrug* I don't consider myself a prude... I just have areas I'm not interested in exploring. I'm perfectly fine with other people going there, I just don't want to go there myself. Some people consider me broke for it or somehow disapproving of them, which I'm not. There doesn't seem to be an eleganr way to communicate disinterest to most members of the "sex positive" crowd, at least in my experience. I find it sad, since I'm clearly not wholy vanilla but clearly not all kink either.
Right... TMI... /blather
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Date: 2003-12-20 11:10 pm (UTC)I think it's unfortunate that some people seem to presume that only the extremes are valid - that one is either "sex-positive", and hence into anything and everything, or a "prude" and against everything.
I prefer the freedom to pick and choose, and I try to extend the same right to those around me.