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[ravencallscrows]

<rant>Well, it looks as if James has flaked on us and instead of having dinner with him and his new girlfriend (and Schizophrenia at the Merc afterwards) we now have no plans. Grrrrr.

Word of advice to those of you who are my friends: If we make even tentative plans, figure that i'm going to proceed as if the event we planned *IS* going to happen. If something changes on your end, let me know. Very few things annoy me more than trying to finalize things (since outings with both of the adults in this household require arranging childcare) and not being able to reach you and not having heard from you either way whether things are definitively on or off.

Since James doesn't have directions to our house, i can be pretty sure he's not going to make the trip, and we never did set a specific time.

Makes me wonder what happened to the boy's manners.</rant>

Comments

[gwynn-aaron.livejournal.com]

I completely agree with you. It drives me crazy the way some people behave towards making plans, and especially to arriving on time. As Lauren can attest I plan things around the time needed to get somewhere in a given time frame and leave very little wiggle-room. So when someone does not display the same sort of punctuality it drives me a little buggy. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but if I don't know quite when I will get somewhere or when someone should meet me then I give the time in a range rather than a specific.

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[wingedelf.livejournal.com]

...and, if something came up and you were running late, you'd call and note that you'd be a little later than expected.

[greenshadows.livejournal.com]

You've never met our "best friend" Derryl...and it's possible you never will. He makes a religion of the bad behavior you're describing.

Doesn't do any good to get mad at him...doesn't do any good to retaliate by ignoring him for months on end (and we have, twice). He's just who he is, unchangeable, and we have the choice of accepting his behavior (and him) as-is...or dropping the friendship altogether.

It's a sorry indicator of our near-non-existent social lives that we haven't dropped him. :/

[gwynn-aaron.livejournal.com]

Totally. The only excuse for not doing so would be that whatever delayed you happened en route and you had no means of communication at hand. If you already late when you are walking out the door, even if it be as little as ten minutes, you should call. One time Lauren and I were meeting a group of other people at a restaurant for dinner. We all agreed on a time and Lauren and I were there about ten minutes early. We then proceeded to wait for nearly an hour. They eventually showed up some 45 minutes after we had all agreed upon. They ended up leaving late because one of the girls couldn't decide on clothing or makeup and then another one had one of her typical little hissy fits over something trivial on the way.

[skyewolf1.livejournal.com]

aww, that sucks...I hate it when people do that...my in-laws are *famous* for doing stuff like that...

[hottoastermama.livejournal.com]

Note to self: pester dear dad about his frequent flier miles.

That's my biggest pisser, too. I'm a get-there-early gal. Not on time: early, unless I know the party wants me there no earlier than....

Andrew was always late. Always. It pissed me off so much. When I went to church with him (already self conscious being a die-hard Catholic attending his Reformed church), he was always atleast 10 to 15 minutes late in picking me up - and he lived 1/2 a mile from me! I hated walking into a service that started. Every time. In a Catholic church, you just DON'T do that. All those rules about coming in before the priest, not leaving until he leaves, bow here, kneel there, cross yourself with this hand now, don't say "alleluia" during lent.....

Anyway. I agree. Especially with kids, but it fries me either way.

[ithilien.livejournal.com]

Hey, don't blame this all on girls. He got lost on the way there, too :P

[inanna.livejournal.com]

Oh, that's a big one for me! Especially things like Church/Circle and classes. i WON'T walk in late to either. The latter because it disrupts the class and you still get marked "late" or "absent". The former because Sacred Space has already been established and i find it to be offensive to treat the Divine so disrespectfully (and yes, i believe that Christian churches do create Sacred Space, too... just in different ways).

[wilson-lizard.livejournal.com]

Ditto. I take it really personally when people waste my time.