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lysana and observations of people in general.
If there's one thing which i'd fault people on, it's not doing things properly. Courtship, like seduction and foreplay, is something which needs to be done properly, or it shouldn't be done at all.
Courtship is not about PDAs (Public Displays of Affection, not the handheld devices), or spending a lot of money on someone in a dating sense. Bunches of flowers are not always the right thing.
Do the little things, the unexpected ones, the fine brush strokes in the big picture. It's the attention to detail that matters.
Be romantic. That side is there in all of us. If you doubt it, learn how to develop yours. A single rose can say volumes when properly presented, just as a dozen can say little more than you have the budget to spend that amount of money or at least masquerade at being able to do so.
If you've any talent with words, write something yourself. Cards are usually an appreciated touch, but when there's something personal in them, that adds the extra little special touch which shows that you care.
Be real. You gain nothing by trying to impress by being something radically different than what you are. If the object of your affection is worthy, s/he'll appreciate getting to be with you rather than the façade of who you think s/he wants you to be.
Be positive about yourself- in at least some way. Just about everyone has some redeeming feature, even if it's just enough of a sense of humour to be able to laugh at one's self. A little confidence and self-assurance goes a long way. It's no fun being with people who are hang-dog and tear themselves down.
Do it right. Be sincere, pay attention, get the little things right. Or don't bitch about people who don't appreciate the wonderful person you are.
That is all.
lysana and observations of people in general.If there's one thing which i'd fault people on, it's not doing things properly. Courtship, like seduction and foreplay, is something which needs to be done properly, or it shouldn't be done at all.
Courtship is not about PDAs (Public Displays of Affection, not the handheld devices), or spending a lot of money on someone in a dating sense. Bunches of flowers are not always the right thing.
Do the little things, the unexpected ones, the fine brush strokes in the big picture. It's the attention to detail that matters.
Be romantic. That side is there in all of us. If you doubt it, learn how to develop yours. A single rose can say volumes when properly presented, just as a dozen can say little more than you have the budget to spend that amount of money or at least masquerade at being able to do so.
If you've any talent with words, write something yourself. Cards are usually an appreciated touch, but when there's something personal in them, that adds the extra little special touch which shows that you care.
Be real. You gain nothing by trying to impress by being something radically different than what you are. If the object of your affection is worthy, s/he'll appreciate getting to be with you rather than the façade of who you think s/he wants you to be.
Be positive about yourself- in at least some way. Just about everyone has some redeeming feature, even if it's just enough of a sense of humour to be able to laugh at one's self. A little confidence and self-assurance goes a long way. It's no fun being with people who are hang-dog and tear themselves down.
Do it right. Be sincere, pay attention, get the little things right. Or don't bitch about people who don't appreciate the wonderful person you are.
That is all.
