More about me than you want to know
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damashita, who got it from one of her LJ friends.
/BASICS/
Name: vanya
Birthdate: 16 April
Nickname(s): WingedElf, taibhsear (although both of these are more online 'handles' than nicknames per se)
Sex (and don't say ''yes please''): male
Current location: Burlington, Washington, USA
Where would you want to live, given the choice: I'm pretty happy in the Pacific Northwest.
Eye colour: blue
Hair colour: Auburn-dark brown (ok, there are some bleached streaks which are significantly lighter too).
Height: 1m87/ 6'2"
Religion: Celtic Reconstructionist Pagan
You are about to embark on what could possibly be the most boring thing you've ever done in your life. How are you feeling: Less than enthusiastic. Almost as if i were going to work.
If you were to run away from home, where would you go? Victoria, BC, Canada, if it's short term. Skye or Iona if it's long term.
/SECKSME/
First off, are you a virgin? Nope.
If you are a virgin, why? n/a
If not, why did you lose it? What a silly question!
How many people have you sexed (you don't have to answer this if you don't want aha)? (Assuming that this means "had sexual relations of indeterminate sort with") Fewer than a dozen.
Would you rather be submissive or dominant during sex? Decidedly submissive. I generally derive pleasure from being able to bring pleasure to my partner.
Would it bother you if both you and your partner preferred being dominant, or both preferred being submissive? Unlikely
Does the thought of being tied up during sex turn you on, baby? Depends on the moment and the individual who's involved.
What about tying someone up? If she gets something out of it. Otherwise, not particularly. See above for statement about being generally submissive.
Does the word "chocolate" mean anything to you, sexually? Nope. Goldschlager and lime juice popsicle-type things though, are another thing entirely (but not together).
Girls: Does penis size matter? n/a
Guys: Does breast size matter? Nope.
If you had a chance to have a one night stand with your favourite celebrity and it was gauranteed that your significant other, if you have one, would not find out... would you? Errr...i have. We'd been friends for over a decade, i was separated, and we were both in need of someone to trust, and one thing led to another. This actually happened twice in the span of six months (yes, same person). I guess this is more being a "friend with benefits" situation, though.
Have you ever had oral sex: Yes.
How do you feel about anal sex? If it's something people choose, good for them.
What different positions have you had intercourse in... your favourite? Can't answer the first. Never really tried to keep count. My favourite will be another cop-out- just about any way with the right person at the moment.
Ever had an orgy? Nope..
If yes, DETAILS :D :
If no, would you want to? Depends on who was involved and how many you consider an "orgy." I have doubts about being able to focus on recieving or giving sensation to more than two people at a time, and often about more than one.
What do you feel about cyber sex? It's harmless fun, assuming the participants are both into it. Usually feels really awkward to me.
Ever had it? Once or twice.
Same two questions as above, except with phone sex? At several dollars a minute, it's a heckuva racket. Between two people who are close in any way but a temporal-physical sense (for example, being on other sides of the country), why not. I've given, if you really want to know.
How do you feel about incest? *squick*.
Hypothetically, you are being forced to "get it on" with any one family (immediate or not) member, who do you choose? *squick*.
What about beastiality? Does the thought of a dog/cat/fish/reptile licking your genitals turn you on, baby? NO! *squick*.
Would you have sex with someone the day you met? Perhaps, but unlikely.
Have you? Yes. Twice.
What's the shortest amount of time you'd have to know someone before having sex? Depends on the person.
How do you feel about abstinence? If it's something an individual chooses for him/herself, more power to hir. It's not a choice others or hive-mind "morality" should necessarily make for anyone, especially over the age of majority.
Is virginity really as big of a deal as people make of it? There are people who still make a big deal of it??? Seriously, though, if someone chooses to make a big deal of it, good for them. If not, that's ok too.
Do you know the first and last names of everyone your partner has had sex with? Nope. Don't want to, either.
/LOVE&RELATIONSHIPS/
Have you ever been kissed : Yes
How old were you your first time: I'm assuming the focus is inferring "other than by a family member." 14?
Describe it: I can't even be sure of when it was. It was a Big Event (tm) at the time.
Do you regret it: Had to start somewhere.
How do you like to be kissed: Depends on the moment and the individual. It can be something as light as the touch of a butterfly's wings, or as intense and passionate as the moment dictates. However it's delivered, put some of your soul into it.
Are you currently in love: Yes.
If so, with whom: On different levels and in different ways, several people.
If not, have you ever been:
What are your turn-ons: I find intelligent, witty, strong, self-assured women nigh unto irresistible.
Do looks matter in a relationship : Nope. An attractive woman demonstrating any of the aforementioned attributes is more likely to catch my attention in the first place, moreso if she happens to be a redhead, but i've been involved with a few women who would not be considered conventionally attractive in a physical sense.
Would you ever have a one-night stand: (I'm assuming this is an 'again' question, since it's addressed in an earlier answer) Unlikely. It'd take some doing to even wrap my head around "friend with benefits," but the latter is significantly more likely.
There is no love without: Trust. It's the one time i'll quote Aleister Crowley- "Perfect love in perfect trust."
How would you define your sexuality? I'm heterosexual with a twist here and there, as might be implied by the answers to the bondage/dominance questions above.
How many boyfriends/girlfriends have you had? Depends on how you define it. Defining it as "people with whom i had a dating relationship which lasted for a period of months with some regularity; or a very intense mutual attraction, regardless of duration, 12.
Have you ever kissed a member of the opposite sex: Yes. Same sex: Yes- it's not an uncommon thing among Europeans. Same sex with romantic implication- none.
Made out with a member of the opposite sex: Yes. Same Sex: Nope.
How many boys have you kissed? Adult males as an adult? Three or four.
Girls? Couldn't tell. Two dozen or so are memorable for one reason or another.
How long did it take you to get over your last girlfriend/boyfriend? When our last girlfriend parted ways with us, it wasn't particularly a case of "getting over" per se. We were going in different directions, and had different needs in life. As far as "replacing" her with someone else, she's been gone for 27 months and i/we haven't replaced her with another. It's my turn to pick this time, and i'm not going to rush the selection process.
Imagine this: your ex comes running back to you... begging you to give them a second chance. What do you do? Do you take them back? There is one former lover for whom i'd consider making room if she wanted to renew our relationship- but she'd not be replacing my primary partner, but would be a secondary (or, less likely, a second primary, if such a thing is even possible).
Say you find out that a friend of yours slept with your boyfriend/girlfriend before you started going out... how do you react? Unless there's something which should be of concern which arose from that situation, it's none of my business with whom a partner has been in her past, unless she chooses to share something specifically. Even then, i may not want to know.
Are you the "jealous type" in relationships? I don't think so..
Do you currently have a significant other? Yes.
When did you meet? Online, 27 December 1996. In person, 7 February 1997.
What was one of the first things you two talked about? Scots Gaelic.
Do you care to know about your significant other's past sexual history... do you ask? Not particularly, unless there is something she wishes to share, and no.
How much do you want to know about your partner's past? There isn't anything which i think i need to know from any partner, past, present or future, excluding any potential health risks.
Are you willing to share with your partner details about your past? If there's something which she wishes to know. I'm unlikely to volunteer many details.
Do you want to get married? Again? Nope. The first one ended in disaster, the second is doing quite well, thanks for asking. If the question is expanded to "do you want to have a committed relationship with someone else," the answer is yes, when/if the right person and time come along.
Do you trust your significant other? Yes.
Do you trust them enough to let them tie you to a bed, giving them free reign to your body? Without question. For that matter, having that degree of trust is almost a given before i'll have sex with anyone, even if nothing of this nature is involved.
/FIVETHINGS/
Name 5 things you like about yourself: composure, humour, creativity, sensitivity, empathy.
Name 5 things you hate about yourself: Failure to complete things, inability to consistently capture my vision in words or art, too frequent tentative approach to matters, inconsistent self-confidence, general shyness.
5 things that turn you on: Didn't i already answer this? "I find intelligent, witty, strong, self-assured women nigh unto irresistible." If they're attractive redheads, so much the better (ok, so that's 6. Sue me.)
5 things you can't stand: People who are pretentious, always need to be the center of attention or feel compelled to embroil others in their personal drama; intolerance; rudeness.
5 things that make you cry: Frustration, tragic movies, nostalgia (which sometimes just makes me wistful), emotional overload, being present at the birth of a child.
5 things that get you to smile: a gentle word, a well crafted phrase, the Divine artwork of a sunset or a rainbow, a well turned calf exposed by an attractive woman.
5 things that make you feel nostalgic: Certain pieces of music, photographs, memory, rereading elements of things i've written, a beautiful vista.
5 things you find beautiful: Grace in movement or speech, intellectual horsepower in application, the majesty of nature, tolerance of diversity, and the curves of the female body
5 things you don't understand: Deliberate ignorance, fundamentalism, refusing to see others as individuals because of a particular identifying trait (sexual preference, race, ethnic origin etc.), the complete nature of the Divine, and why/how photosynthesis works.
5 things you wish you'd stop doing: Procrastinating, being indecisive, failing to plan to succeed, driving three hours on average to and from work, and being short tempered.
5 things you'd do with a million dollars: Buy a house and a sensible vehicle for each adult in the household (cars, not houses), donate to worthy causes, visit certain places in North America (right now, Toronto; Montreal; Antigonish, Nova Scotia; St. John's, Newfoundland; and the Grand Canyon), invest for higher education for family members.
/LAST24HOURS,HAVEYOU/
Laughed out loud: yes
Cried: no.
Got in a verbal fight: no
Got in a physical fight: no
Eaten something: yes
Drank something: yes
Day-dreamed: yes
Masturbated: no
Smoked: no
Hugged someone: yes
Kissed someone: yes
Fucked: None of your business!
Made-out: See above.
Left your house: yes
Interacted with people besides your family: yes
Felt sorry for yourself: no
Done something you know you shouldn't have: no
Watched TV: yes
Gotten online: yes
Read a book: yes
Listened to music: yes
/HAVEYOUEVER/
Snuck out the house at night: no.
Done illegal drugs: no.
Got caught: n/a
Drank (alcohol): yes
Smoked a cigarette: no
Pretended you were going somewhere you weren't: yes
Shop-lifted : no
Got caught : n/a.
Lied to your parents: yes
Been involved with piracy: In the "Aaaaargh! Ahoy, matey. Hoist the Jolly Roger" sense? My beard's neither blue nor black.
Murdered: no
Kidnapped: no
Raped: no
Got caught: At any of the above? n/a. At anything in general, of course.
damashita, who got it from one of her LJ friends./BASICS/
Name: vanya
Birthdate: 16 April
Nickname(s): WingedElf, taibhsear (although both of these are more online 'handles' than nicknames per se)
Sex (and don't say ''yes please''): male
Current location: Burlington, Washington, USA
Where would you want to live, given the choice: I'm pretty happy in the Pacific Northwest.
Eye colour: blue
Hair colour: Auburn-dark brown (ok, there are some bleached streaks which are significantly lighter too).
Height: 1m87/ 6'2"
Religion: Celtic Reconstructionist Pagan
You are about to embark on what could possibly be the most boring thing you've ever done in your life. How are you feeling: Less than enthusiastic. Almost as if i were going to work.
If you were to run away from home, where would you go? Victoria, BC, Canada, if it's short term. Skye or Iona if it's long term.
/SECKSME/
First off, are you a virgin? Nope.
If you are a virgin, why? n/a
If not, why did you lose it? What a silly question!
How many people have you sexed (you don't have to answer this if you don't want aha)? (Assuming that this means "had sexual relations of indeterminate sort with") Fewer than a dozen.
Would you rather be submissive or dominant during sex? Decidedly submissive. I generally derive pleasure from being able to bring pleasure to my partner.
Would it bother you if both you and your partner preferred being dominant, or both preferred being submissive? Unlikely
Does the thought of being tied up during sex turn you on, baby? Depends on the moment and the individual who's involved.
What about tying someone up? If she gets something out of it. Otherwise, not particularly. See above for statement about being generally submissive.
Does the word "chocolate" mean anything to you, sexually? Nope. Goldschlager and lime juice popsicle-type things though, are another thing entirely (but not together).
Girls: Does penis size matter? n/a
Guys: Does breast size matter? Nope.
If you had a chance to have a one night stand with your favourite celebrity and it was gauranteed that your significant other, if you have one, would not find out... would you? Errr...i have. We'd been friends for over a decade, i was separated, and we were both in need of someone to trust, and one thing led to another. This actually happened twice in the span of six months (yes, same person). I guess this is more being a "friend with benefits" situation, though.
Have you ever had oral sex: Yes.
How do you feel about anal sex? If it's something people choose, good for them.
What different positions have you had intercourse in... your favourite? Can't answer the first. Never really tried to keep count. My favourite will be another cop-out- just about any way with the right person at the moment.
Ever had an orgy? Nope..
If yes, DETAILS :D :
If no, would you want to? Depends on who was involved and how many you consider an "orgy." I have doubts about being able to focus on recieving or giving sensation to more than two people at a time, and often about more than one.
What do you feel about cyber sex? It's harmless fun, assuming the participants are both into it. Usually feels really awkward to me.
Ever had it? Once or twice.
Same two questions as above, except with phone sex? At several dollars a minute, it's a heckuva racket. Between two people who are close in any way but a temporal-physical sense (for example, being on other sides of the country), why not. I've given, if you really want to know.
How do you feel about incest? *squick*.
Hypothetically, you are being forced to "get it on" with any one family (immediate or not) member, who do you choose? *squick*.
What about beastiality? Does the thought of a dog/cat/fish/reptile licking your genitals turn you on, baby? NO! *squick*.
Would you have sex with someone the day you met? Perhaps, but unlikely.
Have you? Yes. Twice.
What's the shortest amount of time you'd have to know someone before having sex? Depends on the person.
How do you feel about abstinence? If it's something an individual chooses for him/herself, more power to hir. It's not a choice others or hive-mind "morality" should necessarily make for anyone, especially over the age of majority.
Is virginity really as big of a deal as people make of it? There are people who still make a big deal of it??? Seriously, though, if someone chooses to make a big deal of it, good for them. If not, that's ok too.
Do you know the first and last names of everyone your partner has had sex with? Nope. Don't want to, either.
/LOVE&RELATIONSHIPS/
Have you ever been kissed : Yes
How old were you your first time: I'm assuming the focus is inferring "other than by a family member." 14?
Describe it: I can't even be sure of when it was. It was a Big Event (tm) at the time.
Do you regret it: Had to start somewhere.
How do you like to be kissed: Depends on the moment and the individual. It can be something as light as the touch of a butterfly's wings, or as intense and passionate as the moment dictates. However it's delivered, put some of your soul into it.
Are you currently in love: Yes.
If so, with whom: On different levels and in different ways, several people.
If not, have you ever been:
What are your turn-ons: I find intelligent, witty, strong, self-assured women nigh unto irresistible.
Do looks matter in a relationship : Nope. An attractive woman demonstrating any of the aforementioned attributes is more likely to catch my attention in the first place, moreso if she happens to be a redhead, but i've been involved with a few women who would not be considered conventionally attractive in a physical sense.
Would you ever have a one-night stand: (I'm assuming this is an 'again' question, since it's addressed in an earlier answer) Unlikely. It'd take some doing to even wrap my head around "friend with benefits," but the latter is significantly more likely.
There is no love without: Trust. It's the one time i'll quote Aleister Crowley- "Perfect love in perfect trust."
How would you define your sexuality? I'm heterosexual with a twist here and there, as might be implied by the answers to the bondage/dominance questions above.
How many boyfriends/girlfriends have you had? Depends on how you define it. Defining it as "people with whom i had a dating relationship which lasted for a period of months with some regularity; or a very intense mutual attraction, regardless of duration, 12.
Have you ever kissed a member of the opposite sex: Yes. Same sex: Yes- it's not an uncommon thing among Europeans. Same sex with romantic implication- none.
Made out with a member of the opposite sex: Yes. Same Sex: Nope.
How many boys have you kissed? Adult males as an adult? Three or four.
Girls? Couldn't tell. Two dozen or so are memorable for one reason or another.
How long did it take you to get over your last girlfriend/boyfriend? When our last girlfriend parted ways with us, it wasn't particularly a case of "getting over" per se. We were going in different directions, and had different needs in life. As far as "replacing" her with someone else, she's been gone for 27 months and i/we haven't replaced her with another. It's my turn to pick this time, and i'm not going to rush the selection process.
Imagine this: your ex comes running back to you... begging you to give them a second chance. What do you do? Do you take them back? There is one former lover for whom i'd consider making room if she wanted to renew our relationship- but she'd not be replacing my primary partner, but would be a secondary (or, less likely, a second primary, if such a thing is even possible).
Say you find out that a friend of yours slept with your boyfriend/girlfriend before you started going out... how do you react? Unless there's something which should be of concern which arose from that situation, it's none of my business with whom a partner has been in her past, unless she chooses to share something specifically. Even then, i may not want to know.
Are you the "jealous type" in relationships? I don't think so..
Do you currently have a significant other? Yes.
When did you meet? Online, 27 December 1996. In person, 7 February 1997.
What was one of the first things you two talked about? Scots Gaelic.
Do you care to know about your significant other's past sexual history... do you ask? Not particularly, unless there is something she wishes to share, and no.
How much do you want to know about your partner's past? There isn't anything which i think i need to know from any partner, past, present or future, excluding any potential health risks.
Are you willing to share with your partner details about your past? If there's something which she wishes to know. I'm unlikely to volunteer many details.
Do you want to get married? Again? Nope. The first one ended in disaster, the second is doing quite well, thanks for asking. If the question is expanded to "do you want to have a committed relationship with someone else," the answer is yes, when/if the right person and time come along.
Do you trust your significant other? Yes.
Do you trust them enough to let them tie you to a bed, giving them free reign to your body? Without question. For that matter, having that degree of trust is almost a given before i'll have sex with anyone, even if nothing of this nature is involved.
/FIVETHINGS/
Name 5 things you like about yourself: composure, humour, creativity, sensitivity, empathy.
Name 5 things you hate about yourself: Failure to complete things, inability to consistently capture my vision in words or art, too frequent tentative approach to matters, inconsistent self-confidence, general shyness.
5 things that turn you on: Didn't i already answer this? "I find intelligent, witty, strong, self-assured women nigh unto irresistible." If they're attractive redheads, so much the better (ok, so that's 6. Sue me.)
5 things you can't stand: People who are pretentious, always need to be the center of attention or feel compelled to embroil others in their personal drama; intolerance; rudeness.
5 things that make you cry: Frustration, tragic movies, nostalgia (which sometimes just makes me wistful), emotional overload, being present at the birth of a child.
5 things that get you to smile: a gentle word, a well crafted phrase, the Divine artwork of a sunset or a rainbow, a well turned calf exposed by an attractive woman.
5 things that make you feel nostalgic: Certain pieces of music, photographs, memory, rereading elements of things i've written, a beautiful vista.
5 things you find beautiful: Grace in movement or speech, intellectual horsepower in application, the majesty of nature, tolerance of diversity, and the curves of the female body
5 things you don't understand: Deliberate ignorance, fundamentalism, refusing to see others as individuals because of a particular identifying trait (sexual preference, race, ethnic origin etc.), the complete nature of the Divine, and why/how photosynthesis works.
5 things you wish you'd stop doing: Procrastinating, being indecisive, failing to plan to succeed, driving three hours on average to and from work, and being short tempered.
5 things you'd do with a million dollars: Buy a house and a sensible vehicle for each adult in the household (cars, not houses), donate to worthy causes, visit certain places in North America (right now, Toronto; Montreal; Antigonish, Nova Scotia; St. John's, Newfoundland; and the Grand Canyon), invest for higher education for family members.
/LAST24HOURS,HAVEYOU/
Laughed out loud: yes
Cried: no.
Got in a verbal fight: no
Got in a physical fight: no
Eaten something: yes
Drank something: yes
Day-dreamed: yes
Masturbated: no
Smoked: no
Hugged someone: yes
Kissed someone: yes
Fucked: None of your business!
Made-out: See above.
Left your house: yes
Interacted with people besides your family: yes
Felt sorry for yourself: no
Done something you know you shouldn't have: no
Watched TV: yes
Gotten online: yes
Read a book: yes
Listened to music: yes
/HAVEYOUEVER/
Snuck out the house at night: no.
Done illegal drugs: no.
Got caught: n/a
Drank (alcohol): yes
Smoked a cigarette: no
Pretended you were going somewhere you weren't: yes
Shop-lifted : no
Got caught : n/a.
Lied to your parents: yes
Been involved with piracy: In the "Aaaaargh! Ahoy, matey. Hoist the Jolly Roger" sense? My beard's neither blue nor black.
Murdered: no
Kidnapped: no
Raped: no
Got caught: At any of the above? n/a. At anything in general, of course.
